When you come to a session with me, as my clients will confirm, I talk a lot about ‘the stress bucket’ and the importance of keeping your bucket from overflowing by doing the ‘3 P’s’
It sounds simple, and in reality; it is, as change is very straightforward and results can be felt quickly. However, as anyone suffering from anxiety knows, the intrusive thoughts, which lead to procrastination and self-criticism, have a mind of their own. You are telling yourself to just get up and wash those dishes, clean that cupboard, make that coffee date with a friend, and whilst doing that your brain is becoming overwhelmed with all you need to do. What happens next can be likened to a scene from a toddler’s room – your brain throws its toys out the cot saying, ‘do nothing!’ It’s a state of paralysis so to speak, where action becomes an insurmountable mountain that you are not equipped to climb.
What we continue to do is what we have always done to keep safe – what we are programmed to do in times of stress or danger.
The problem with this is that our primitive brain is in control. If we were to initiate our authority over this part of our brain, we would see that actually; we are capable of being at the helm of our own ship.
Our primitive brain is at the intellectual level of a five-year-old and just as a five-year-old would do if it doesn’t get its own way, our primitive brain throws a tantrum until it gets what it wants. It’s our role as adult to learn to recognise this and take our place as captain.
Well in theory yes, but realistically we must deal with the feelings associated with feeling stressed – and these feelings can be incredibly debilitating and very real.
This is where neuroscience comes in, and where I can help.
Through harnessing the power of your imagination through trance, we will, together, help you take back that authority one small step at a time, so your emotional brain doesn’t feel overwhelmed.
Our emotional brain doesn’t know the difference between reality and imagination, which helps us empty our stress bucket a little each day until we are able to recognise what is real and what is just another ‘inner tantrum.’ This process gives clients the tools to continually improve even when therapy stops.
It takes action to bring about changes, as we are changing the way we perceive reality which in turn allows us to achieve the best outcome in any situation we find ourselves in.
Feeling tired exhausted or fatigued is something that happens to all of us at some point, but what if it continues and you find yourself dragging yourself out of bed no matter how much sleep you have had, you just cant seem to shake this constant mental and physical exhaustion?
I recently had an experience of this, I had been burning the candle at both ends so to speak and wasn’t getting enough sleep and convinced myself that this was the cause of my lack of motivation to just get on with things however I did notice that on my days off I still couldn’t shake it even though I was well rested physically.
I had a short holiday planned and was surprised to find that once I arrived in my lovely sunny destination all exhaustion disappeared, I had not had any extra sleep in fact probably less due to the long flight but I was full of energy and anticipation as my focus had changed.
This got me thinking about how we can get so caught up in our problems that we fail to see the solutions, we convince ourselves that the reason we feel the way we do is due to our circumstances and surroundings and it takes a change in perspective and focus to realize that we are all in control of how motivated or energized we feel in any given moment by changing how we think about it.
So something to try next time you find yourself blaming your current circumstances for how you feel is to change your focus and draw your attention away from your surroundings think back on a time when you were really excited or filled with joy, focus on it, close your eyes and re experience that time, notice how you smile to yourself you might even start to smile on the outside too! Small changes lead to big ones, we are only able to change from moment to moment so how would you like your next moment to be?